All in the Family
The past few weeks has brought me back in touch with one of my cousins. Our fathers are brothers and so much alike. We were discussing the conflicts that we have had with our dads over the years and how it seems to be something Prouty boys are born to do. As my cousin is deciding to start a family himself, I suggested that he look at his relationship with his dad and how that will affect his parenting. I so often hear the echoes of my parents when I talk to my kids.
My son Nick is now 11 years old and a beautiful child. He is witty and funny and interested in the sciences. We do have our conflicts, most of it around him getting his homework done. But he rarely challenges us and takes on chores with little complaint. He has been a true bright light for us.
My daughter Alex is 9 and sweet as well. She has been a challenge for us as she is in the middle of the autistic spectrum. She was six years old before she slept through the night. She would usually wake around 2 AM screaming and crying. Jeanette and I would trade off nights and often find ourselves driving around the neighborhood so other family members could sleep. We recently confessed to each other that the thought had crossed our mind on those early mornings, that not returning would be a blessing for the others still in the house. She continues to be a great deal of work and source of stress. Today, we are thankful for her and wouldn't trade. She has taught us so much and those lessons have helped us deal with our current crisis.
I would give my life up any day to save my kids'. I think that is a force of nature. When I spend time reflecting on my life and narrow it down to what is really important, it is the children. Not only my own, but the ones I have been able to touch as an educator. I am so glad that teaching was my calling and that even as I moved from the classroom to administration, I could tie my work back to children.
I am thankful for all the people that raise, care for and educate children. A good friend of mine cried the other day when talking about her own 30 year old son who is having work trouble. They are always "your children."
I am also so thankful for my parents (for I must remember that I too and someone's child), my brothers, my children and most of all, my wife Jeanette. I love you all.
Doug on 03.30.06 @ 08:10 AM PST [link]